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Kick Out That Fear! By Henry Ukazu



Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears – Les Brown

Greetings my esteemed friends all over the world

It may interest you to know that I was inspired to write this piece a long time, but it is better late than never. Though few in words, I’m grateful for the opportunity to keep my friends engaged one more time.

What is fear? What does fear mean to you? And how can fear be overcome? These are some of the angles we shall be discussing throughout this discourse. Each and every one of us has fear living in us. Our fears may range from business fears as an entrepreneur or salesperson, fear of marriage, having to pay bills, etc. Fear can be simply defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. Simply put, fear arises when we are afraid of the unknown.

Personally, I think as human beings, there’s nothing that threatens our existence more than fear. Yes, we all live with fear in one way or another, but what’s important is how we allow it to impact our life and our attitude. We shall discuss other components of fear and how we can overcome it.

As we make resolutions for the coming year, I strongly believe many are entertaining some fear as well. I just hope you don’t allow fear to hinder you from reaching your target. Whatever the case may be, I want you to know that nothing scares a man more than fear.

It is your obligation to overcome it no matter the challenges you may face.
Whenever you are faced with fear, you always have a choice. It’s either you “Fear Everything And Run or Face Everything and Rise.” If you decide to choose the former, you will have to live to fight again to overcome that fear, but if you choose the latter, you are not only being optimistic and positive, you are a leader. Yes, great leaders live above their fears. Any leader who can’t overcome his or her fear is a shallow and myopic leader. But villains face their challenges and rise. Be advised, whatever doesn’t kill you will only make you strong.

The question now is, what are the types and causes of fear and how can we overcome our them? Fear can be regarded as a less form of phobia; they may seem similar, but the difference lies in the intensity and severity of the emotions experienced. A Phobia is the heightened form of fear. The common types of phobias can be divided into ‘simple’ phobias or ‘social’ phobias. Simple phobias can be described as the fear of specific types of objects, insects or situations such as the fear of flying. Social phobias can be defined as the marked fear of social or performance situations. For a more detailed list of different types of phobia please see

There are five types of fear:

1. Fear of Extinction: This is the kind of fear a person feels when he or she feels they will die or will be annihilated.
2. Fear of Mutilation: This is the fear that arises when one discovers he or she will lose a part of his or her body. It can also result from a fear of animals or insects.
3. Fear of Autonomy: This results from the fear of feeling paralyzed or restricted. It is commonly called claustrophobia which is the fear of being confined in a place where one is been controlled beyond once circumstances.
4. Fear of Separation: This is the feeling of abandonment, rejection, and losing connectivity of either a loved one or someone we appreciate due to the role he/she plays in our life.
5. Ego death: This is the fear of humiliation due to one’s reputation or personality which threatens the self-worth and respect of the person. According to Euripides “Death is a price we all must pay.” We must surely die one day, but the question is how do you prepare for death? According to Mark Twain, “The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”

WHAT ARE THE CAUSES OF FEAR: There are many causes of fear. Fear can be a result of failure, rejection, judgment, success, speaking, financial instability, fear of meeting people and going to places, and fear of the unknown. In summary all these are from the fear of the unknown. All the aforementioned fears imprison you from passing through stages of your life. Fear is indeed a prison! It locks up your mind from thinking out of the box.

DOUBT AND FEAR: This is another form of imprisonment -you cannot achieve anything substantial in life if you don’t have faith in yourself. In similar ways, you can never succeed in life if you have doubt and fear in your life. There is an adage that says, “in doubt, do not act”. Whenever you experience fear, always remember the words of Katasai Rakshaha, “those who fear darkness, have no idea what light can do“. That’s why it is always advisable for your faith to be bigger than your fears. I had an experience while studying Taxation Law at New York Law School. Being that it is a major that scares many people due to the concepts and technicality inherent to it, many people shy away from it. During the course of the program, I was unable to comprehend the major because of the concepts and its application, in addition to not having a proper grounding and passion for it. I was concerned about achieving the required score needed to graduate from the program. At a point in the program when I considered quitting, I saw a post on Facebook which read, “You cannot know what you know you can’t know.” After reading the post, I said to myself, “yes that’s me.” The following week, I saw another post, ” Your desire for success should always outweigh your fear of failure.” I took the last quote because it assisted me in overcoming my fear and doubts. I say this because, if only you realize how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think negatively again.

FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN: Most times, we are afraid of superficial beliefs: what will people say, what will happen if A or B doesn’t happen? These thoughts cause so much fear in our minds to the extent we lose our present sense of enjoyment. It should be noted that there’s nothing that kills a person more than fear. I ask, why are you so anxious for tomorrow? Don’t you know by thinking of tomorrow, you are losing today? I strongly believe in the saying “what will be will be (Que sera sera).” The book of Matthew 6:34 says, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”


In order to outlive the fear of death, we must always be conscious of our thinking. Our thoughts are the deciding factors that control how we overcome fear. Therefore, we must always practice the law of attraction in our daily lives. According to Les Brown, “Too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our fear.” Overcoming your fears can be tough, yet easy if you play by the rules. Here’s a question to ponder on: what do you think you can accomplish if you had no fear in you? If you are able to answer this, then there is fear in you that needs to be dealt with. The question now is, how do you overcome this fear? You can only solve a problem if you know the cause of the problem. Meaning, your ability to identifying the cause of the problem.

Ways we can overcome fear are:

Create Awareness: Before you can overcome your fear, you must acknowledge the fact that you have it in you. Admit that it is causing havoc in your life. You don’t solve a problem by running away from it, you have to own it and devise or improvise means of solving it.
Identify: You must acknowledge the fact that you have fears in your life. Isn’t it true that identification of a problem is 50% solved? How true it this? What are you really scared of? Observe your inner self and know what’s actually scaring you about any situation. Be advised, if you don’t do what scares you, you won’t overcome what’s ahead of you.
Take Action: When you realize you have fear in you, decide to take action and deal with the frightening thoughts. Do those things that scare you. Our minds and imagination are so powerful. For example, if you are scared of public speaking, you can take action by speaking to your friends in a social gathering or community. You might be surprised how amazing you will perform when you get the feedback. At creation we were not given the mindset of fear; we are overcomers. According to the book of life in 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
Be Curious: Another great way of confronting your fear is by daring to succeed. You can deal with this situation by confronting the situation. Have the mindset of a scientist, take risks because the fear of taking risk is the risk itself. As advised earlier on, you can’t solve a problem by running away from it, confront it.

Speak positively: This is one of the most effective tools you can use to overcome fear in your life. There is power in spoken words. Yes, there is power in words. Even the book of life said in Matthew 15:11, “it is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.” Speak into your life. You have to own your world. Permit me to give a true life story about how this point made a huge difference in my life. When I was studying taxation law as a graduate student at New York Law School, it felt like a thorn in my flesh, but I’m glad I’m now passionate about it and working in a reputable tax company. During the summer of my last semester in the program, a friend of mine called me from Princeton University and said, “Henry, assume your exam is tomorrow, how do you feel about it?” I took a deep breath and said to myself, “this lady attends one of the best universities in the world” and replied to her, “I think, the least I will score is a B+ or an A-.” However, I scored a 3.5 G.P.A that semester for the exact same grade (B+ and A-) for the two classes I enrolled in. The irony of it was that I do know the best I would have had is a D or C, but the power of spoken word really did some magic. I was even awarded a scholarship of $3000 by my dean because I took those classes despite her discouragement. As a Nigerian Igbo guy, I believed that “Impossible is a word to be found only in the dictionary of fools.” ― Napoléon Bonaparte. FEAR 2

Using spiritual words to overcome fear: It’s a fact in life, there are many ways to kill a rat, just like there are many ways to talk to a lady to like you. This is because ladies are all different, so you have to know what works for each and every one of them. For more information on this, please read my blog on The Little Things of Life where I discuss the five love languages. I strongly believe using the words of God can go a long way and make a difference in your life if you have faith.

The following bible quotations can help us live above our fears:

Psalm 56:3: “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you”
Psalm 118:16 “The LORD is for me; I will not fear; What can man do unto me“
Psalm 23:4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.
Finally, it should be noted in order to reach the next stage of your life, you must decide today to confront that fear holding you back by kicking it out of your life. Let’s live well and succeed, as my good friend Marilyn Oma Anoma will always say.


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Voice of Emancipation: Nigeria’s New President




By Kayode Emola

In less than 48 hours Nigeria will welcome a new President, charged with handling its affairs for the next four years. Yet among the many challenges awaiting the new president, whether Nigeria itself can even survive another four years remains to be seen. There is no doubt that the Tinubu/Shettima presidency will need more than courage to keep Nigeria united for the full duration of their elected term.

Only time will tell whether Tinubu and Shettima will be sworn in come May 29, or whether we will instead have an interim government. However, one thing of which we are certain is that the era of Muhammad Buhari is over, never to be experienced again. Those who have survived living under Buhari’s misrule in Nigeria for the last eight years deserve an award for endurance.

We must not allow the expected swearing-in of a Yoruba man as Nigeria’s president on Monday 29 to make us complacent. Indeed, my Yoruba people, our task has just doubled.

Nigeria’s future is now looking more imperiled than ever before. The Indigenous Peoples of Biafra (IPOB) are already threatening to declare their own independent Biafra nation if Tinubu is sworn in come May 29. And the Biafra campaigners are not the only disgruntled people within the country. The vast majority of our Yoruba people and even the Hausa people are becoming embittered with the trajectory Nigeria has taken since independence. At this point now, the new president must decide if Nigeria will continue as it is, or ask the indigenous people to decide their future.

It is increasingly evident that Nigeria is not a sustainable venture, and that a trading post cannot become a country that can endure the test of time. The people within Nigeria never decided to unite and become a country, so trying to hold them to ransom can never succeed.

I will therefore urge the incoming president to rethink his policies if he has not thought about a peaceful way in which Nigeria’s dissolution can be established. Powering through and hoping that he can hold Nigeria together like his predecessor Buhari did will definitely not stand the test of time.

To my fellow Yoruba people who are singing hallelujah that a Yoruba man is going to be president. I want us to know that just as Buhari is leaving the Presidential seat come Monday 29, Tinubu will also not be president for life. When he leaves what will be the fate of the Yoruba people or the other nationalities that makes up Nigeria.

At this juncture in our history, it would be the time to give the indigenous peoples of Nigerians the opportunity to determine their future in a constitutional conference. Nigeria has gone past its due date and must now be prepared for decommissioning just like several countries such as Yugoslavia, Czechoslovakia, etc has done in the past. If not, a dysfunctional disengagement may lead to utter chaos if not another civil considering the damage the country is currently doing to the lives of millions of frustrated youths. The rate of poverty is not abating with the currency being devalued on a daily basis putting more strain on the people’s finances

The handlers of Nigeria must acknowledge that the unitary system being practiced in Nigeria has utterly failed the people. The people must now be handed a lifeline in order to salvage a future for themselves and their future generations. Anything short of that may mean Nigeria may go the way other African countries such as Somalia and South Sudan etc have divided with years of bitter civil war which has resulted in the loss of millions of innocent lives.

Yoruba people should not shout ‘Uhuru’ yet because one of us is sitting in ‘Aso rock’. If history has thought us anything, whoever becomes president of Nigeria is there for themselves and not necessarily representing their constituents. That Tinubu will be president does not stop the call for an independent Yoruba nation, if anything, the call for an independent Yoruba nation should now become louder and clearer to send a strong signal to the local and international communities that the Yoruba people have finally made up their mind to leave Nigeria.

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DNV: Namibia Welcomes First Digital Nomads




By Dolapo Aina

According to Citizen Remote, “A digital nomad visa is a temporary permit that allows visitors to stay in a country while they work remotely. Multiple countries offer these sorts of visas, and most of them have a duration of twelve months, with the possibility to extend your stay. While they may not be for everyone, a digital nomad visa allows many remote workers to travel the world while they work from the comfort of their computers. They also help the countries impulse their economy by having foreigners stay for extended periods.”

Several benefits and fallouts of having digital nomads in a country include but not limited to positive country branding by the digital nomads who are residents in their host country. Digital nomads tend to amplify messages the host country might have been trying to get across to potential travellers. On the African Continent, only a few countries have latched on to Digital Nomads and Digital Nomad visas (and it is noteworthy to state that some African countries might not term it Digital Nomad Visas but have something in that guise.)

Since the COVID-19 pandemic and its attendant fallouts, digital nomads and remote work have increased exponentially globally and in Africa particularly.

According to the Harvard School of Business, with the global shift towards remote work over the past three years, approximately forty-seven countries have developed digital nomad visa programmes. On the African Continent, a few countries offer Digital Nomad Visa. These countries are and in no particular order: Cape Verde, Mauritius, Namibia and Seychelles. Other countries on the African Continent have something within this category but officially, it is designated as Digital Nomad Visa.

On Tuesday, 9th of May 2023, Namibia Investment Promotion and Development Board announced and welcomed Namibia’s first Digital Nomads.

According to a statement signed by Ms. Catherine Shipushu, who is the senior manager: Marketing, Branding and Communications of Namibia Investment Promotion and Development Board, “Namibia officially recorded her first digital nomads just five months after the official launch of the country’s Digital Nomad Visa (DNV) on 11 October 2022. The programme was launched by the Ministry of Home Affairs, Immigration and Security (MHAISS) and the Namibia Investment Promotion and Development Board (NIPDB), with the aim of enhancing economic activity in the country. The first two digital nomad visa applications were approved on Tuesday, 14 February 2023.”

The statement further revealed that the Digital Nomad Visa programme aims to capitalise on the growing global remote workforce by offering location-independent foreign professionals the chance to live, work, and experience Namibia for up to six months. These digital nomads contribute towards the country’s economy by injecting foreign currency in the ecosystem, but without usurping jobs meant for Namibians. Early results are encouraging, with over 121 enquiries about the programme recorded so far. Of this number a total of 20 applications were received, out of which nine were approved, with five rejections. The reasons for rejection were made known to include; applicants who do not meet the income requirements of two thousand dollars per month, and are thus unable to prove that they can effectively sustain themselves while in Namibia. Other applications were rejected because they were submitted while the applicants were already in Namibia on a different legal status such as a Tourist Visa, or they arrived in the country before approval of their application.

According to Ms. Catherine Shipushu; “The launch of the Digital Nomad Visa earned Namibia international praise, from Cape Town to Germany and as far as Australia. Additionally, we have witnessed a surge in queries and applications for the DNV through our website, further demonstrating the growing global interest. This demonstrates Namibia’s potential to harness the digital nomad trend and create new opportunities for local businesses in the tourism and information and communication technologies support sectors. As an effective marketing tool for Namibia, the DNV program has also created visibility through digital nomads documenting and sharing their experiences on social media and other mass media platforms, showcasing the nation’s natural beauty, rich cultural heritage, and hospitality. This increased visibility has the potential to help attract more tourists, investors, and talent, further stimulating the nation’s economic growth and development.”

It is said that, by design, the Digital Nomad Visa complements, rather than competes with, the local workforce, ensuring digital nomads bring their own remote jobs or freelance projects to Namibia. This approach benefits the Namibian economy and its people while creating an environment for local entrepreneurs and professionals to expand their networks, learn from their international counterparts, and explore new avenues for collaboration.

Dolapo Aina reached out to Ms. Catherine Shipushu (senior manager: Marketing, Branding and Communications of Namibia Investment Promotion and Development Board, in the Office of The Presidency) for more clarifications and insights.

On the abovementioned statement that the digital nomads contribute towards the country’s economy by injecting foreign currency in the ecosystem, I asked if this is the only criteria being looked at? What about those nomads who can attract global attention and global traffic into Namibia? How do you factor that into the policy? Ms. Catherine Shipushu stated that, “The Namibia Digital Nomad Visa (DNV) serves a dual purpose in enhancing the country’s economy. Firstly, it allows digital nomads to inject foreign currency into the ecosystem, contributing to economic activities and growth. Additionally, the DNV harnesses the power of digital nomads as ambassadors for Namibia. Through their documentation and sharing of experiences on social media and other platforms, they become valuable marketing assets, attracting global attention and generating publicity for the country. As part of our marketing campaign, we have engaged digital nomads, who are currently in Namibia, to share their unique perspectives and experiences, aiming to inspire and attract more digital nomads to choose Namibia as their preferred “work” destination. By leveraging their presence and influence, we strive to create a ripple effect of positive exposure and interest in Namibia, ultimately benefiting the local economy and fostering collaboration between local and international professionals.”

On the two thousand dollars per month projection, I asked if this was targeted at only Western nomads only or global nomads including African nomads who might not have the same financial muscle as their Western counterparts? And would this amount be reduced anytime soon? Ms. Catherine Shipushu stated that, “The requirement of USD 2,000 per month for the Namibia Digital Nomad Visa is not targeted exclusively at Western nomads. The income requirement serves as a benchmark to ensure that digital nomads, regardless of their nationality, have the financial means to sustain themselves comfortably in Namibia. The aim is to provide a positive experience for digital nomads and contribute to the local economy. The income requirement is based on the cost of living in Namibia and takes into account expenses such as accommodation, transportation, food and other essentials. The Namibian government understands the diverse backgrounds of digital nomads and aims to create an inclusive environment that welcomes global nomads, including those from Africa and other parts of the world, while maintaining a reasonable financial stability requirement. As with any programme, there is a possibility of periodic evaluation and adjustments based on feedback and the evolving circumstances.”

The launch of Namibia’s Digital Nomad Visa programme is a bold and strategic move that positions the country as a prime destination for remote workers from around the world. By embracing this global trend and offering a world-class visa program, Namibia stands to reap substantial economic, social, and cultural benefits.

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Adding Value

Adding Value: Understanding Oneself: Foundation to Success by Henry Ukazu




Dear Destiny Friends,

“To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom” – Socrates

Please permit me to begin this article by asking a simple question. Who are you? By this, I mean what you stand for or represent and not what the world thinks of you. It is instructive to note that what the world thinks of you is your reputation, but your character is who you really are.

If an employer wants to know more about a prospective employee, they can ask an open-ended question such as how would you describe yourself in one sentence? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Have you ever experienced a challenge or problem at work? If yes, how did you handle it? All these questions are structured to inquire more about the personality of the employee.

One of the best things anyone can do in life is not only to understand who they are, but also understand what they represent. It will be hard to know what you represent if you don’t understand who you are. If you don’t understand yourself, it will be difficult to understand other people.

According to Forbes, only 15% of the world are self-aware. One begins to wonder, what about the remaining 85%. As a transformational Human Capacity Coach, my company is focused on helping people unleash their potential. To do this, we use our self-discovery and mindset training manual to know more about them by giving them a set of self awareness questions which they are required to answer to the best of their knowledge. It is rather unfortunate that a lot of people don’t know themselves. They just exist as opposed to living.

Self-discovery is truly lacking in our society. When you truly know yourself, you will know your strengths and weaknesses. When you know yourself, you will know your boundaries as regards what to accept from people and where to draw the lines; you will know your personality traits; you will have a clearer understanding of your career path in your professional life; you will know how to interact with people; you will know your core values; you will have a clearer version of your life purpose; and you will be self-motivated. The list is literally endless.

In the journey of life, we engage in a lot of activities we are not supposed to be engaged in. For example, we study courses we are not wired or love to study, and this makes understanding difficult. Some of us apply for jobs we are not passionate about just to pay bills. Some of us even marry partners we don’t really like due to circumstances. Again, the list is endless. All these can lead to frustration and depression if not properly managed. If only we can take a deep breath and ask ourselves some deep thought-provoking questions on what we really want in life, and the reason we are doing what we are doing, the result will be different.

There are many ways to understand oneself. You can understand yourself by staying silent, reflecting about, and observing your life. These acts will help you to practice self-awareness which will ultimately help you to look inward and enable you to understand your feelings, emotions, and your personality. Self knowledge will enable you to know your values, interests, temperament, life mission, and activities to engage in.

As human beings, one thing we should constantly engage in is learning new things about ourselves on a daily basis. Knowing oneself takes time. However, due to desperation, most people don’t practice the art of stillness. When you take time to understand what’s involved in a particular work, it will be easy to solve it in a more efficient and effective manner. There is a story told of a philosopher, who fell into a ditch in front of him because he was too busy to see what was ahead of him.

Again, let’s take the case of Japan with about one hundred and twenty-five million people, which is one of the most industrialized countries on the planet, yet it maintains a level of calm despite the busy nature of the country.

The benefits of knowing oneself is priceless. It will make you confident which will ultimately eliminate self-doubt. It will help you build better and healthy health relationships by attracting the people you need and eliminating people you don’t need. You will be less stressed because you will focus on what’s important as opposed to irrelevant things which will keep your temperament and mindset in good shape.

Self discovery will help you to know your self-worth because no one will price you cheap when you know your value, and you will feel happier.

Furthermore, self knowledge will help you in decision making. When you know yourself, you will be able to make better choices about everything, from minor decisions to major decisions. Your temperament and personality type will be better managed as a leader or rational being.

Self control: When you know yourself, you will better manage yourself. If you can’t manage yourself, it will be hard to manage other people. When you know yourself, you understand what motivates you to resist bad habits and develop good ones. Knowing your strengths is one of the foundations of self confidence.

Resistance to social pressure. Self knowledge helps you to focus on what’s beneficial to you as opposed to other people. According to Bill Cosby, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone. When you are grounded in your values and preferences, you are less likely to say “yes” when you want to say “no.”

In conclusion, take time and reflect on this question, who am I? This is one of the most important questions you will answer in your entire life. When you answer this question, you have solved 50% of your life challenges. If you can’t answer this question, and need assistance, you can use the email below to reach out for assistance.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate and creative writer Design Your Destiny and Unleash Your Destiny.  He can be reached via

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