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Adding Value: The Power of Humility by Henry Ukazu

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Dear Destiny Friends,

“True Humility Is Not Thinking Less of Yourself, It’s Thinking of Yourself Less” – C. S. Lewis 

One of the greatest qualities any progressive mind must have is humility. Some people think humility is old-fashioned, that when someone talks about being humble, they’re just looking for a new way to brag about themselves. In some cases, humility is seen as weakness, but, in reality, it is one of the greatest strengths a person can possess. It is a quality that allows us to be open to new ideas and perspectives; to be more forgiving and understanding of others, and to be more compassionate and empathetic.

Personally, nothing endears me so much to anyone than humility. I have attracted so much goodwill by the application of this revered quality. I have seen great people who I doubt if I can measure up to their life accomplishment, yet they are extremely humble. As a matter of fact, I have a mentor who is a sophisticated wealthy man by any measure one can imagine. This man used to be a bus conductor during his teenage years, but luck found him, and he was able to get a decent education. Today, he is one of the most revered Africans who relates with world leaders, especially with presidents of countries.

During one of our physical meetings, he told me he never forgets his humble beginnings because he knows it’s only God that has brought him that far in life. That’s humility! It is however, sad to know some people tend to forget their humble beginnings when their status begins to change. They are ingrates. They fail to understand that the higher you go in life, the more humble you should become.

Humility is not weakness, it is strength. The word humility is underrated in our society. However, great people who think out of the box have discovered the hidden power of humility and have used it to disarm people in addition to attracting opportunities.

Let’s face it, nobody likes a proud mind, but a handsome, intelligent, wealthy, and very valuable, and yet humble person, will be highly celebrated and revered.

Clive Lewis was right when he stated, humility is not weakness, rather it is thinking of oneself less. When you know who you are, you will resist the temptation of announcing yourself. This literally means, a rational being ought to continually see himself or herself as someone who doesn’t know it all, and as such opening oneself to growth opportunities of learning.

Let’s take a moment to share more insights on what humility means. True humility breeds confidence, the kind that doesn’t need to boast accomplishments. True humility allows a leader to listen to others, gather different points of view, and admit they may not have all the answers.

Servant Leadership

There’s no doubt that humility is one of a leader’s most powerful tools. It unlocks the potential of those around them, strengthens relationships, and allows people to trust and respect you.

Great and exceptional leaders are humble people. It takes humility to lead. The hallmark of a leader is applying humility. Servancy is a style of leadership that focuses on putting the needs of others before your own. This type of leadership is based on the idea that if you can help your team members succeed, they will, in turn, help you succeed. Leaders, who practice servant-Leadership are often more successful because they have a motivated team to help them achieve their goals.

Humility also allows us to build better relationships with others. When you are humble, you are less likely to be defensive or to take criticism personally. It takes humility to learn from others because it makes one more approachable and easier to work with, which can lead to better collaboration and teamwork.

Humility can lead to greater self-awareness. When you are humble, you are more likely to reflect on your own behavior, and take responsibility for your actions.

According to a research, people are more likely to succeed when they display humility because humility will make them to be modest, vulnerable, and have empathy for others in addition to having an open mind.

In any sphere of life whether family, work-related, school, personal or professional, humility if properly used can be a game changer.

Humility helps you to admit mistakes. A humble rational mind is open to feedback.  It takes humility to accept constructive criticisms.

Shows gratitude: A humble person takes time to show gratitude to their team members, recognizing their hard work and contributions. They express their appreciation in a sincere and meaningful way, which helps to build a positive and motivated team culture.

Active listening: A humble leader is a good listener who gives their full attention to team members when they speak. Listening is one of the essential skills that a leader can possess. They seek to understand their perspective, validate their feelings, and respond in a way that shows they have been heard. A humble mind is someone who leads with empathy, puts the needs of their team first, and fosters a culture of trust, collaboration, and growth.

Seek Help

Humble people are not afraid to seek help. They are more likely to succeed because they aren’t afraid to ask for help. Humble leaders know that they don’t have everything figured out and that they can benefit from the expertise of others.

Humility makes you understand your strengths and weaknesses

Humble leaders are good at knowing their strengths and weaknesses. They don’t try to be something they’re not. Authenticity and honesty are key components to being an effective leader. Humble leaders know that they aren’t perfect, and that there are many things that they cannot do on their own. They also understand that they can learn from others and draw from their knowledge and experience to help them become better leaders.

In conclusion, the power of humility should not be underestimated. Whether in our personal or professional lives, being humble can lead to greater success, better relationships, self-awareness, and happiness. So, let’s embrace this quality and be proud in humility.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate and creative writer Design Your Destiny and Unleash Your Destiny.  He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Adding Value: Unpredictable Nature of Life by Henry Ukazu

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Dear Destiny Friends,

There are different philosophies, principles, facts, theories, and truths that guide life. The ability to understand these dynamics can position one very well. Life can however, spring surprises because that’s its nature. It can also be very complex, and it takes discernment of mind to comprehend it.

Without an iota of doubt, life can be as unpredictable as it can be fragile. So, it’s advisable to handle it with care. Just like the rain falls on every roof, and death visits every household, life and success can be unpredictable no matter how well you plan for them.

The journey of life offers us several opportunities, misfortunes and experiences. Your ability to manage and navigate through all the varieties of life will determine your attitude towards it because of its unpredictability.

We never know what the next chapter life will offer, and the uncertainty it will bring. This uncertainty can be both thrilling and terrifying.

Life is a journey filled with twists and turns, ups and downs, and unexpected surprises. It is a rollercoaster ride that takes one through moments of joy, sorrow, triumph, and defeat. One thing is certain however, there are factors that contribute to this unpredictability.

Uncertainty is an essential aspect of human experience, and accepting it can lead to personal growth, resilience, and a more fulfilling life. Uncertainty can be likened to risk. No one knows what will unfold.

It is in these moments of uncertainty that we discover our true beings, strengths, weaknesses, and capabilities. In fact, we get to know more things about ourselves. By embracing the fear of the unknown, we become more flexible and open to change, which is essential for navigating the unpredictable nature of life.

On a personal note, I had plans to work in the United Nations, study a particular major, marry a certain kind of lady, have a certain number of children, etc. But as one matures and experiences life, sometimes what we think is good for us might not be good for us and what we think is odd might be what life is for you.

For instance, you might desire to marry a curvy lady with intelligence, but at the end of the day, life can give you a lady with high school diploma, with less beauty, but with the ideal qualities you need to succeed.

Over time, my experience of life has changed due to the books I have read, and human relationships have taught me to accept the unknown by preparing for the best and expecting the worst.

Sometimes life offers us golden opportunities through relationships, but our inability to manage the opportunities and relationships will make the opportunity to slide. It’s sad to see people who think because they have certain people and opportunities, they believe the opportunity won’t leave them, either because they think they are too good or can’t be replaced. However, they fail to understand that in life, nothing is guaranteed.

Again, some people think and feel that because they have money, power, network and resources, life will remain permanent and soft for them, however they fail to understand that nothing in life is guaranteed, except death and God. Your power can fail you; your money can fail you, your network, contacts can disappoint you., you can lose your job, etc. but God can’t fail his people.

Just to understand how unpredictable life can be, imagine buying a new car, you are not guaranteed safety in the car if you are driving the car. This is because no matter how careful you are, you are not sure what other drivers might be driving on the road. Again, you may have a sound car, you cannot tell how durable the car might be because it can break down unexpectedly due to one mechanical or electrical fault. That’s just simply how unpredictable life can be.

One of the experiences life has taught me is not to believe in my knowledge, understanding and my network, but to trust in the capacity of God. I vividly remember one day I was invited by Mr. kola Adesina, the Group Managing Director of Sahara Energy for a friendly meeting. During the meeting, I shared my desires and plans of introducing my work to some resourceful people. He smiled and said to me, your prayer should be for God to connect me to meet the right people and not the names I mentioned. That statement made me speechless for a minute.

He went on to say, you might meet Bill Gates, Jef Bezos, Elon Musk, Joe Biden, Barack Obama, Aliko Dangote, etc, but they are not the right people for me, according to him, he has seen people who worked with bigger names and still became poor. While am I sharing these, when I look back at some of the achievements and resourceful people, I have had close contact with, I know it’s only God who has made it possible because on my own I wouldn’t have been able to do it, and the people I was hoping to introduce me to them didn’t come through.

In conclusion, whatever you have, please manage it because nothing is guaranteed.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your  and Unleash Your Destiny .  He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Adding Value: The First Step by Henry Ukazu

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Dear Destiny Friends,

It is an incontrovertible fact that greatness is appealing and soothing to the heart. Globally, greatness is celebrated because of the accolades that come with it. The question we all fail to ask is what does it take to be great?

Several factors contribute to the greatness of an individual, among which are tenacity, discipline, failure, belief system, courage, etc.

According to Ernest Agyemang Yeboah, “There has never been any great person who never met great trials and oppositions, but their patience, tenacity, endurance and perseverance saw them to the end as great people”. It is these trials and oppositions that will determine how great we will be.

Just like gold must go through a furnace to be refined, we all must be tested in our way or another to determine our passion, interest and courage.

Greatness is not easy to come by. One must soil his hand to make ends meet. Ernest Agyemang Yeboah maintains that “anytime you enjoy the sweet fruits of the tree, remember the dirty roots of the tree”. To be great is like making money. Nobody acquires genuine money with clean hands, you must soil your hand in a mud for you to reap the fruits of your labour.

It’s instructive to note that everyone has greatness living inside of them, however, the challenge most of us have is not being able to activate the greatness. Taking the first step is the foundational step to greatness. It’s sad to see people who want to be great, but they are scared of taking the heat Greatness does not come from a place of comfort.

A great factor necessary for greatness to take shape is courage. Per Apostle Joshua Selma, “courage is not outsourced, it is generated.

He further stated that “behind every genuine result you see, there’s a testament of endurance and courage.  You must date to succeed despite glaring failures staring at you.

Great people dare the consequences of what people will say. They are not scared of failing. They are not scared of walking alone. They are not scared of risking their lives to birth their vision. Research has it that Charles Leiper Grigg failed 6 times before he succeeded at the seventh time and he nailed the product, 7UP, meaning that he succeeded at the 7th time.

The first step in succeeding is very critical, and in most cases, it is the most important step. The first step is like the foundation of a building. The first step is like the first appearance. The first step is like your resume/curriculum vitae.

Without the first step, every other act is like putting the cat before the horse. Let’s take some practical examples, before a man wins the heart of a lady, he must take the first step in talking to her. Before a person becomes a celebrated author, he must have taken the first step to write the first set of words. Before someone becomes the President of a country or even serves in any elective position, he must have taken the first step in buying the form. Before someone gets a job, he must have taken the first step to apply. Before a mentee gets accepted by a mentor, he must have taken proactive steps to reach out. The list is literally endless.

Amid all these, one thing is certain, one must eliminate fear if one is desirous of taking the first step. Fear hinders one from taking the first step. It would be foolhardy to say we have not experienced fear in our daily lives. I have personally experienced the fear of the unknown. I can vividly remember when I was writing my first book, in all sincerity, I didn’t know what I was writing. I had to reach out to a couple of friends and mentors to review the work, some said just continue, some said, when you are done, the editors will review it. I was literally wondering how my work will be received by the public. Being a first-time author was no joke, but the good part is, the book came out as a resounding success.

The role of the first step in my life cannot be overemphasized. Most of the big accomplishments I was privileged to overcome were simply because I took the first step even when I was not prepared for the task or journey. I vividly remember when I joined the Nigerian Lawyers Association while studying Taxation Law in New York School. In all honesty, I was not prepared to occupy the position. I simply decided to test my faith. I literally failed and learnt on the job, but the interesting perspective to the job was the inherent opportunity that came with the job. The position exposed me to lots of High-Profile people I have access and relate with closely. Imagine if I have not taken the first step; I won’t know most of the people I have access to today.

According to an accomplished Ghost writer, Dr. Yomi Garnett, “You don’t have to be great to start, but you do have to start to be great. If you have a rather big goal. Today take the biggest possible step in the direction of its fulfillment. If the step looks relatively tiny, do not worry if it’s the biggest possible for now.

In as much as it’s advisable to get prepared before you take an opportunity, however, there’s an exception to the rules, sometimes, you don’t have to have everything figured out before you take the first step, you just have to take the risk and, in most cases, it turns out good. Even if it turns out negative, you didn’t fail, rather, you learn from an experience.

In conclusion, do you have a project you would like to accomplish? If yes, take the first step. Don’t be afraid of the challenges, obstacles and forces that are likely to rear their ugly heads.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your  and Unleash Your Destiny .  He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Adding Value: Take Nothing for Granted by Henry Ukazu

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Dear Destiny Friends,

The joy of life, it is generally believed, is not how happy one is, but how happy others can be because of them.

One of the best things that can happen to any human being is to have people in his life that money cannot buy. It is unfortunate however, that most people place more value on money than on resourceful people. It’s also sad to note that most people relate to others because of money, vested interest or what they hope to gain as opposed to associating with people based on what they are.

It is this attitude that makes some people relegate others because of how they perceive them. It is therefore, important to desist from looking at people based on the imaginary image and perception you have of them. Sometimes in life, appearance is not reality.

According to Dr. Dele Momodu, “the child of a certified pauper can be a man of means tomorrow if properly educated”. This literally goes to tell show that in the journey of life, nothing is guaranteed, and as such, one must not take anything for granted because nobody knows tomorrow.

According to an adage in my culture, nobody knows the stomach that would give birth to a king.

This principle is applicable in all areas of life. Whether you are in the family, academic, business, spiritual, entertainment and social-political industry, your ability to pay attention to details will pay you in the long run. Let’s take for instance, in a family, as a married couple, when respect is lacking for a man and admiration is lacking for a woman, the relationship has a great tendency to crash. In academics when you don’t take time to study, do assignments and doing the needful as opposed to having a lackadaisical lifestyle, you are likely to have a hard time succeeding.

If you are in the entertainment and socio-political industry, and you don’t have the right attitude to manage people and resources, you are bound to lose it. Your ability to assist people will serve as a currency for you tomorrow when you need it because human beings are the “greatest” asset you can build. When you help people when you have the opportunity, you will have a greater opportunity of reaping the benefits in due time, but when you fail to assist people, you will die alone. So, don’t take anyone or anything for granted because they might be the chair you will need to sit down tomorrow.

The days of humble beginnings are very critical to the success of anyone. When you disregard the days of humble beginnings, you are merely saying you don’t know who you are, where you are coming and where you are going. Imagine starting a business from scratch and you were able to build it with the right principles, structure, and network, only to destroy it with ingratitude and pride when you think you have arrived. Imagine being blessed with the gift of prophecy and healing and you decide to taint it by engaging in immoral acts, you are likely to lose it.

Successful people are usually quite thorough; they pay attention to details. They don’t take people for granted. You can say they are fastidious. They know too well that every little mistake they make can crash their business. They also know too well, the ability to manage people very well can be the ice breaker to their next breakthrough.

Many people who have truly succeeded, didn’t succeed because they have it all together, apart from having the support of benefactors, friends, family, strangers, mentors, etc., their ability to do common things in an uncommon way plays a critical role to their success. For instance, in most progressive corporate organizations, political positions, religious organizations etc., if you can successfully execute any task, greater opportunities will be given to you. Your success might not only be attributed to your knowledge, but it could also be how you were able to manage people.

Most of the success and opportunities I have attained in life is simply because of the attitude and the ability to successfully manage the task that has been

 given to me in addition to building a solid relationship.

According to Myles Munroe, whatsoever you don’t manage, you will lose, so don’t take anything for granted.  If you don’t manage your friendship/relationship, you will lose it, if you don’t manage your finances, you will lose it, if you don’t manage your health, you’ll lose it and if you don’t manage your mistakes and failures very well by learning from it, it can end your life if you dwell on it for a long time.

According to Jennifer Young “Pause and remember every single event in your life, especially the difficult lessons, have made you smart, strong, and wider than you were yesterday. Be Thankful”.  So don’t take any situation lightly.

In conclusion, if you are desirous of getting to the next stage in life, adopts of Francis of Assisi ‘ start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible”. While doing this, please exhibit a great attitude, manage people very well by not taking anyone for granted.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your  and Unleash Your Destiny .  He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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