By Babatunde Jose
Therefore remember Me, I will remember you and give thanks to Me and be not ungrateful to Me (Quran 2:152).
This verse underscores the idea that being grateful to Allah for His blessings leads to an increase in those blessings, while ingratitude may lead to divine consequences.
Gratitude is when you feel thankful for the good things in your life. This could be things people often take for granted, like having a place to live, food, clean water, friends, and family. Gratitude is taking a moment to reflect on how lucky you are when something good happens, whether it’s small or big.
The Islamic message of gratitude is “Alhamdulillah for everything I have, Alhamdulillah for everything I had and Alhamdulillah for everything I will have.” In Surah Al-Ala, ayat 7 it says, “Except what Allah should will. Indeed, He knows what is declared and what is hidden. And We will ease you toward ease.”(Quran 87:7)
The Prophet (SAW) was a leading example when showing gratitude towards the creation and the Creator. Many du’ā uttered by the Prophet (SAW) include words of gratitude to Allah and he would often pray excessively for those who carried out favours for him.
Gratitude reminds us that everything that happens to us comes from God and that we shouldn’t take the many bounties in our lives for granted. The Qur’an says: “And whatever of blessings and good things you have, it is from God” (Quran 16:53). And gratitude is not just about giving credit where credit is due.
The 3 stages of gratitude are: Stage 1: Acknowledging what you’re grateful for in your life. We have all experienced these types of feelings, but mostly they are fleeting. Stage 2: Expressing gratitude to others. …Stage 3: Integrating the essence of gratitude into your life and psyche.
The six pillars of gratitude are: relatedness, sincerity, empathy, self-regard, integrity, and humility. To be able to move from the sense of gratitude as an emotion to gratitude as an action – or deep gratitude – requires a commitment to putting priority on the relationships in our lives.
These feelings are part of the ‘increase’ that Allah says He gives to His grateful servants: “If you are thankful, I will give you more” (Quran 14:7). The ‘more’ does not have to be ‘more’ materially, but a feeling of fullness, satisfaction in the heart, and closeness to God.
Allah is Ash-Shakur, meaning the most grateful, the rewarder of good deeds, and is most appreciative.
It is Allah who has created us, made us an intelligent species, and favored us with many blessings. Whatever good we achieve – whether relating to material, professional, personal, or spiritual life – is ultimately from Allah. As He states in the Quran, “And He gave you from all you asked of Him. And if you should count the favors of Allah, you could not enumerate them. Indeed, humankind is [generally] most unjust and ungrateful.” (Quran 14:34)
The above ayah emphasizes the need for frequently expressing gratitude to Allah. However, many of us are unaware of how exactly to do so – what constitutes gratitude and what does not? Here are ten practices and attitudes for showing thankfulness to Allah.
1) Contemplate His blessings in your life: Begin by reflecting upon all that is worthwhile in your life – including your relationships, abilities, possessions, and achievements. If you are not consciously aware of what there is to be thankful for, then you simply cannot be thankful for it. Also think about what could have been worse in your life: imagine being deprived of something valuable or picture yourself living in a homeless shelter. These scenarios, disconcerting as they may seem, allow you to appreciate your situation in life, and not take things for granted.
2) Be content at heart: Do not yearn for what others have; rather, be content with what you can acquire, without overworking yourself or trampling upon someone else to get there. If you constantly compare your financial status or perceived well-being with anyone else, you are not going to achieve peace of mind. And without peace of mind, there is no contentment of heart.
3) Express gratitude with words: Call upon Allah each day to express how grateful you are for His favors. Praise Allah by saying “Alhamdulillah” every time you eat or drink something, and whenever something good comes your way. Remember Allah frequently, call upon Him without any intermediary, and praise Him for His beneficence and generosity.
4) Obey the commands of Allah: Obedience to the commands of Allah is the most practical form of gratitude. Therefore, make every effort to enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong. Strive for the truth even if it goes against you or those close to you.
5) Value your relationships: Appreciate the people around you who add value to your world. Think about what each important person in your life does for you. Make sure you don’t take anyone for granted – whether your parents, spouse, children, friends, relatives, co-workers, or anyone else you routinely interact with. Never let a disagreement or an unpleasant exchange with one person adversely affect your conduct towards others. Think of ways to improve your relationships, knowing that it is Allah who has placed you in the midst of certain people.
6) Thank people who do good to you: Express gratitude to any person who does something for you – no matter how small.
7) Share your blessings with others: Everything that you possess ultimately belongs to Allah; you are merely its custodian and beneficiary for a period of time. It thus makes sense to share your blessings with fellow humans.
8) Do not waste your blessings: Wasting food, water, and other resources is a sign of indifference towards Allah’s blessings. Millions of people around the world are deprived of basic necessities such as regular meals and clean water.
9) Exercise patience in difficult times: What better way is there to counter a difficulty than to show patience and determination? Instead of feeling dejected or angry, trust Allah to help you, and take you over the line. As Prophet Yaqub said, “Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people.” (Quran 12:87)
10) Remain committed in times of ease: In good times, it is easy to imagine that nothing can go wrong. Hence, one may end up neglecting the remembrance of Allah, and becoming absorbed into worldly life.
If you appreciate Allah’s favors, He has promised increased Rahma or mercy for you. Allah’s reward for your gratitude is unlimited and unconditional. “If you are grateful, I will surely give you more and more” (Quran 14:7).
Islam does not only teach us to thank Allah, but we are also told to thank our parents, our spouses, our friends, our neighbors, and all those who do any good to us. The Prophet (SAW) said, “Those who do not thank people, they do not thank Allah.” (At-Tirmidhi).
Islam forbids ingratitude in all forms. Like the Yorubas say; ‘eni ti ase ‘loore ti ko dupe, bi olosa akoni leru lo ni’. The ingrate is like a thief who carts our valuables away.
Studies are showing that there are endless health benefits of a regular gratitude practice. It turns out that cultivating a gratitude practice reduces the stress and physiological indicators of stress. Expressing gratitude can also increase feelings of happiness and satisfaction in life.
Gratitude is an emotion similar to appreciation. The American Psychological Association more specifically defines this phenomenon as a sense of happiness and thankfulness in response to a fortunate happenstance or tangible gift. Gratitude is both a state and a trait (Jans-Beken et al., Gratitude and Health: An Updated Review. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 15(6), 743-782. 2020).
Gratitude comes from the Latin word “gratus” meaning “thankful” or “pleasing.” Being grateful is a feeling of appreciation for acts of kindness and thankfulness for what we have, such as supportive friends, family, coworkers, pets and service animals, fulfilling careers, and good health.
Matthew 6:25-34, puts everything in perspective. . In everything thank God…
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow, nor reap, nor gather into barns and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life? And why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin and yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not clothed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you – you of little faith?”
“Therefore, do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ for it is the Gentiles who strive for all these things; and indeed your heavenly Father knows that you need all of these things. But strive first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Allah has promised us in the Holy Qur’an (14:7) that if we are grateful He will give us more. “More of what?” we may ask. Imam Ghazali furnishes the answer when he says that Allah will grant us more of His blessings.
In order to encourage us to be grateful, Allah discloses part of His limitless love and mercy to us when He categorically states that if we are grateful He will not punish us. He first promises this in the form of a question in the verse: What can Allah gain by your punishment, if ye are grateful and ye believe? Nay, it is Allah that recognizeth (all good), and knoweth all things.(Quran 3:147)
In one of his admonitions, Bearer Adeniji Kazeem SAN wrote: Live in gratitude, when you are thankful for what you have, you are always rewarded with more. There is an old saying that, if you have forgotten the language of gratitude, you will never be on speaking terms with happiness. It is good to see people do good, do good, be humble, life is always enjoyable, we just have to learn to steal pleasure from small things, it is not happy people who are thankful, it is thankful people who are happy, stay positive, may Allah(swt) strengthen our faith, accept our good deeds.
Barka Juma’at and happy weekend
