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Believe in Yourself (Part 2) by Henry Ukazu
Published
6 years agoon
By
Eric
Compliments of the season!
Last week, we discussed Believe in Yourself. Today, we shall continue the discussion. As I stated last week, in my humble opinion, believing in yourself is the mother of all motivational and inspirational articles.
During the course of this article, we shall be inspiring ourselves with different quotations; we shall also be discussing how we can believe in ourselves using different resource medium. We shall conclude using different inspirational quotes to keep us fired up.
Believing in yourself can be a difficult task in the face of difficulties and adversities especially when the odds are against you. The question now is, will you give up when the odds are against you or will give it a shot? If you care for my opinion, here are my thoughts:
Talking to the people you love: Sometimes, we have difficulty seeing the best in ourselves, but the people who love us will never struggle to see those things. We all have friends and enemies of progress who you can call haters. Friends and haters all have role to play in our lives. Your true friends spur you to greatness by encouraging and criticizing you constructively where necessary. According to Henry Ford “ My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me” Haters on the other hand, encourage you never to give up. The best way to defeat haters is never to give up on a task or project you are passionate about.
Just think of how far you have come in life and the people who want to see you fail and you will be inspired. Therefore talking to a friend or people you love is a good way to gain confidence.
Find a cause you believe in: Nothing strengthens any individual more than pursuing a cause he or she believes in. True confidence comes with believing in a cause you are passionate about. It may be difficultly to believe in yourself if you are always trying to please others. The passion you feel for this projects will help you to work harder and see how much you can achieve. Benjamin Franklin stated “If passion drives you let reason holds the rein”. You must always have the courage to pursue your dreams. According to Ruth Gordon, “Courage is very important, like a muscle, it must be strengthened by use”.
Be Consistent: It should be noted that inconsistent is inconsistent with the lifestyle of all great men. All great men are not only consistent with their thoughts, words and action, they make consistency their lifestyle. They say what they mean and mean what they say. It is their consistency that gives them credibility and belief in their product which in turn creates value and income for them.
The big question now is how do you improve yourself? Learning how to believe in yourself will open up endless possibilities in your life. At times you may find this difficult to do. The truth is that we’ve been conditioned throughout our lives to doubt ourselves. We must retrain ourselves to get rid of our fears and self-doubt in order to build self-esteem and self-confidence.
Here are two most important steps to learning how to believe in yourself. Practice them and you’ll be amazed at the results:
Believe it’s possible.
Believe that you can do any task regardless of what anyone says or feels about you. It doesn’t water where you are in life. Believing all starts from the mind. According to Napoleon Hill in his book, “Think and Grow Rich”, whatsoever the mind can conceive, believe it can achieve it. During the USA presidential electioneering campaign, President Barack Obama stated in one of his speeches President Obama encouraged us to have hope in the face of difficulties. He was able to become one of the greatest US president because he believed in himself and daunted his doubts. Be informed Jim Rohn stated “If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will settle for the ordinary.
Visualize it:
Vision is one of the greatest strength of leaders. Visionary leaders are always inspired by their convictions and plans. Once you have a vision, you will work towards it every day in order to accomplish the vision you have in mind. Isn’t it true that the whole world sets aside for the man who knows where he’s going to? It doesn’t matter where you are coming from, or the mistakes you have made in the past, all that matter is where you are going. Mistakes are part of success. According to Theodore Roosevelt “The only man who doesn’t make a mistake is the man who never does anything “.
Take action towards your goals
Plans are nothing if we don’t put them into action. This is because talk is cheap. Believing in yourself entails taking action. We live in a world where people are not judged by what they say they will do, but by what they have done. In order to believe in yourself, you first have to believe that what you want is possible. In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument; it can deliver literally everything you want through the power of positive expectation. For example, Zander Fryer was an ordinary person, but he made the extraordinary decision that has led to him leading an extraordinary life. Zander worked for a large tech company whose technology was used by Disney, Facebook, NBC, DIRECTV, and at 27 years old he decided to quit his job. After reading the Success Principles, Zander realized that his job really wasn’t for him. His mentor asked him, “What would you do if you couldn’t fail?” Zander immediately said that he would be a trainer and a mentor to others. The biggest reason most people don’t achieve their goals and realize their dreams is that they don’t take action, and the number one reason people don’t take action is fear. And, what I tell them is that fear is normal, and as soon as you experience fear, you need to take action.
According to Mat Mayberry: To live a life of high achievement, you must fully believe in yourself and your ability. All the great men that ever existed really believed in themselves. Examples are: Steve Jobs, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Barack Hussein Obama, Martin Luther King, Jr., and Michael Jordan, are just a few highly successful individuals who benefited greatly from this confidence. However, it’s not their levels of success that I want to talk about. It’s their willingness to get up again and again when they failed or experienced a setback while in pursuit of creating the life of their dreams. They were only able to keep going and achieve success because of the level of belief in themselves despite the enormous amount of failures they had experienced for years leading up to their big breakthroughs. Their belief is what created a vision so big that they didn’t care how many times they failed at something.
If you don’t have a huge amount of belief in yourself, then there is no way you can expect anyone else to believe in you. If you are an employee, you can’t expect your boss to fully believe in you if you don’t even believe in yourself. If you are an entrepreneur, you can’t expect an investor to believe in your ideas if you don’t even believe in yourself.
In our contemporary society today, the personality and attitude an individual disposes speaks a lot about the person. It’s doesn’t matter your profession or business. For example, in order for a politician to convince an individual to support his/her candidacy, one will have to show prove or evidence of personal conviction. Once you believe in yourself, you don’t need anybody’s confirmation or opinion because your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. You can’t really change person’s opinion about you, the best you can d o is to influence them.”
Here are some interesting quotes to get you inspired to believe in yourself.
In the journey of life, you will pass many roads, some will be bumps, some red light, some caution lines and others green light. Depending on your situation, always remember the words of Dough Larson “The problem with learning from experience is that you never graduate. The more you fail in a fail, the more you learn and the more you learn, the more you gain experience which gives you an affirmative belief. Oscar Wilde puts it more succinctly, Experience is simply the name we give we give our mistakes.
Are you going to fail? Knocked down? Scorned and humiliated? The answer is yes. They question now is will you allow your experience to define you or elevate you? The choice is yours. According to Vince Lombardi “It is not where you get knocked down, it is whether you get up”.
I encourage you today to have the courage to pursue your convictions and beliefs regardless of what maybe starring at you at the face. It is the energy and how resilient you are that you are that will make people to believe in you. In the words of Julie Andrews “Perseverance is failing nineteen times and succeeding the twentieth”
I will conclude with the words of Mark Victor Hansen “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.” –Mark Victor Hansen
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He can be reached via henrous@gmail.com
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Time to Pause and Reason: Open Letter to His Excellency Peter Obi and South East Political Gladiators
Published
16 hours agoon
May 23, 2025By
Eric
By Dr Sani Sa’idu Baba
Your Excellency, Peter Obi, and the Esteemed Political Leaders of the South-East, I want to take this opportunity to reaffirm my deep love and unwavering support for the South-East region of our great nation. This region holds a special place in my heart, not just because of its rich culture, resilience, contributions to our national development, or the many Igbo friends I have whom I hold dearly, but because I believe in the boundless potential of all Nigerians irrespective of region, tribe, or religion.
My advocacy has always been rooted in the principles of justice, fairness, and unity. I remain committed to the vision of a Nigeria where every citizen, no matter their background, enjoys equal opportunity, is treated with dignity, and has a rightful place at the table of national progress. Only through equity and mutual respect can we build the inclusive and prosperous nation we all desire.
I write this open letter with both conviction and a deep sense of urgency regarding the future of the South-East in the political landscape of Nigeria. As a passionate advocate for justice, fairness, and the political advancement of the Igbo people, I feel compelled to address a critical issue that could define the political trajectory of their region: the need for strategic political alliances in the quest for the future South-East presidency.
Over the years, I have admired the resilience, ambition, and intellectual prowess of the South-East. The region has long been a pillar of Nigeria’s economic and social development. The Igbo people have proven themselves time and again in business, academia, and entrepreneurship. However, despite these contributions, they have struggled to produce a president of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. This persistent political marginalization is both frustrating and unjust. But I believe there is a way forward, and that way lies in strategic political marriages, particularly with the North. I don’t personally believe that the failure of the region to produce a democratically elected president is rooted in their low population, but the weak political alliance especially with the North. No region in Nigeria can do it alone!
Consider the path taken by the South-West in 2015. It was a calculated political maneuver that ultimately led to the emergence of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu as President of Nigeria. The South-West, under Tinubu’s leadership, understood that the road to power was not about blind ambition or ego, but about forging alliances and making strategic decisions that would serve the collective good. In 2015, Tinubu and his political network aligned with the North, and in return, they secured political capital that eventually paved the way for the South-West to produce a president in 2023. Tinubu’s victory was not a coincidence; it was the result of a careful, calculated alliance with the Northern political establishment, a coalition that was mutually beneficial and rooted in trust.
The same strategy that led to the South-West’s success in 2015 can be employed by the South-East. The truth is, the road to the presidency for the Igbo people cannot be walked alone. It requires a partnership, a coalition, and a commitment to long-term political engagement.
Your Excellency, Peter Obi, you have earned the respect of millions of Nigerians, both in the South-East and beyond. Your presidential bid in 2023 was a historic moment for our region, but it was also a stark reminder that without a strong political alliance, it will be difficult.
It is within this context that I urge you to carefully consider the proposal put forth by His Excellency, former Vice President, Alhaji Atiku Abubakar (if he has actually proposed) to accept the position of Vice President. Some may view this suggestion with skepticism or even disdain, but I believe it presents an opportunity that should not be dismissed outright. Yes, it may come with its own challenges, but it also comes with tremendous potential. If you accept this offer, it will not only position you to serve Nigeria at the highest level of government but will also pave the way for the South-East to produce a president in the near future.
I understand that there are many who will argue against this political coalition, especially those within the ranks of the All Progressives Congress (APC) and its proponents. The detractors will attempt to sow seeds of doubt, creating division and fostering distrust. However, you must not be swayed by the negativity of those who are intent on preventing this coalition from succeeding. They know that a strong North-South-East alliance poses a real threat to their political hegemony, and they will stop at nothing to make it seem impossible.
Very important is that, history has proven the North as a political promise respecter. When the Northern political elite make an agreement, they tend to honor it. This was evident in the 2015 election when the North supported Tinubu and the South-West, as part of a broader alliance to ensure that the region would eventually produce a president. The North understands the power of coalition politics, and it is crucial that the South-East recognize this and strategically align themselves with those who can help bring about a political transformation of the region.
Your Excellency, this is not just about the personal ambitions of any one individual; this is about the future of our country at large, and South-East in particular. It is about securing the Igbo presidency not in the distant future but in the near term. The political marriage between the North and the South-East could be the key to breaking the longstanding political exclusion of the Igbo people. However, to achieve this, the South-East must not only be patient and strategic but must also be willing to make calculated political decisions that may not seem immediately gratifying.
I implore you, Your Excellency, to set aside any personal grievances or doubts that may cloud your judgment. This is about the future of our children and the legacy you leave behind. The Igbo presidency is not an impossible dream, but it will require unity, cooperation, and a clear strategy. You should therefore not allow the naysayers to dictate the course of your history. Instead, pave the way for collaboration with your political associate who you refer to as your elder brother, His Excellency Alhaji Atiku Abubakar and take the bold steps toward the realization of a Nigeria where an Igbo man or woman will sit at the highest office in the land, bringing an end to their palpable marginalisation.
To the political gladiators of the South-East, I call on you to support this vision. The road ahead may not be easy, and the sacrifices may be great, but the reward will be worth every ounce of effort. Let us unite, strategize, and make the future Igbo presidency a reality.
Yours sincerely,
Dr. Sani Sa’idu Baba, a Concerned Advocate for Justice and Fairness, writes from Kano.
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By Oyinkan Andu
In a move that has ignited widespread debate, the Nigerian House of Representatives is considering a bill that would make voting compulsory for all eligible citizens.
Spearheaded by Speaker Abbas! The same man who introduced the Counter-Subversion Bill in 2024, which proposed severe penalties, including up to 25 years imprisonment, for actions like refusing to recite the national anthem. The proposed legislation would amend the Electoral Act 2022, mandating participation under threat of penalties—up to N100,000 in fines or six months’ imprisonment.
While the proposal claims to target voter apathy, its timing and the political climate suggest it may be more about power retention than civic responsibility.
Compulsory voting is not unprecedented globally. Countries like Australia and Belgium have implemented such laws to combat voter apathy and enhance democratic participation. In Australia, for instance, non-voters face modest fines, a measure credited with maintaining high voter turnout. But those systems function on trust and electoral credibility—two ingredients sorely lacking in Nigeria’s democracy.
In Nigeria, where elections are frequently marred by violence, voter suppression, and manipulation, compulsory voting risks transform civic participation into state coercion. The right to vote should not be weaponised against the citizens it is supposed to empower. This begs the question- Why make voting compulsory in a country where elections are already deeply mistrusted? The answer may lie not in civic virtue but political strategy.
Compulsory voting, in the wrong hands, can be a powerful tool for electoral fraud. Here’s how:
-> Artificial Turnout Inflation: By forcing citizens to vote, the government can create a façade of mass participation, lending legitimacy to results that may have been manipulated.
-> Targeted intimidation: With penalties looming, the law gives local political operatives another excuse to harass, intimidate, or coerce populations, especially in opposition strongholds
-> Suppression Disguised as Enforcement: The enforcement of fines or jail time could be selectively applied to disenfranchise marginalised or opposition-leaning groups under the guise of legal compliance
In short, this bill risks becoming a legal cover for voter suppression, data manipulation, and election rigging—hallmarks of authoritarian democracies in disguise.
The bill’s proponents cite low voter turnout as a justification. In the 2023 general elections, only about 27% of registered voters participated, a decline from previous years. Yet, this approach may overlook underlying issues such as electoral violence, vote-buying, and lack of trust in the electoral system. Instead of addressing these root causes, the bill appears to shift responsibility onto the electorate.
The timing and nature of the bill have led to speculation about its political motivations. Some analysts suggest it could be a strategy by the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC) to legitimise future elections and suppress dissent. By mandating participation, the government might aim to project an image of robust democratic engagement, regardless of the electorate’s genuine sentiments. Civil society organisations, including the Socio-Economic Rights and Accountability Project (SERAP), have condemned the bill, labelling it as oppressive and inconsistent with constitutional rights. They argue that the focus should be on creating a conducive environment for free and fair elections, not penalising citizens for abstention.
Even setting politics aside, enforcing such a law is impractical. How will the underfunded enforcement agencies verify who didn’t vote and why? What constitutes a “valid excuse”? Will overstretched courts prosecute millions of non-voters?
In a country still struggling to issue reliable national ID cards and prevent electoral fraud, enforcement of such a policy borders on fantasy—or worse, it becomes an excuse for targeted harassment. Further still, implementing such a law poses significant challenges. Determining valid excuses for non-voting, ensuring accurate records of participation, and enforcing penalties would require substantial administrative resources. In a country grappling with infrastructural deficits and bureaucratic inefficiencies, these hurdles could render the law ineffective or lead to selective enforcement.
Voter apathy in Nigeria is a symptom, not the disease. Citizens stay home on election day because they believe the process is broken. Forcing them to participate doesn’t restore democracy—it reinforces their disillusionment. While increasing voter turnout is a commendable goal, if well intentioned, mandating participation through punitive measures may not be the solution. Addressing the root causes of voter apathy, such as electoral malpractice, insecurity, and lack of trust in governance—should take precedence. Democracy thrives not merely on participation but on the freedom to choose, including the choice not to participate.
As Nigerias navigates its young democratic journey, policies should aim to empower citizens, not coerce them. Genuine engagement stems from trust and transparency, not compulsion. If the Nigerian Political elite or “Government” as some may call it wants real reform, it must earn participation—not demand it.
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Aare Dele Momodu is undoubtedly one of the most recognisable names, voices, and personalities to emerge from the world’s most populous Black nation Nigeria.
Anyone who has travelled with Bob Dee would understand the magnetic presence he carries from Atlanta Georgia, Accra to Nairobi, down to Central London. He receives nods of admiration, requests for photos, and warm pats on the back wherever he goes. A true cultural ambassador, effortlessly at ease in rich native attire, which his commanding presence makes look truly majestic, he wears native outfits like royalty.
He is a consummate storyteller, an indefatigable workhorse, and one of the most selfless and hospitable people I know. His generosity is legendary. Mention Dele Momodu at any Marriott Hotel in East Africa, and you can expect the red carpet to be rolled out.
I was stunned at Kotoka International Airport as immigration and customs officials broke into chants of “Ovation! Ovation!” while we walked through, it was surreal but perfectly fitting for a man so deeply respected.
Bob Dee is at home with the old and young, with royalty and regular folk alike. There are countless moments that reflect his goodness, but allow me to share just one:
In Summer 2023, while holidaying in Accra with my family, Aare generously assigned his Ghanaian chef to us for two full weeks serving delicious meals until we had to kindly ask him to pause! Not long after, he flew into Accra and hosted us at La Chaumiere his favourite upscale French restaurant, where his presence is evidently cherished.
As my daughter and I prepared to return to London, we discovered shockingly that her passport had expired just a day earlier. I had to remain behind to resolve the issue. By divine timing, Bob Dee called to check in, and upon hearing the situation, immediately sent his driver. We spent that night in his elegant Accra home.
The next morning, using her Nigerian passport, we flew into Lagos. On his advice, I contacted Mr. Governor, and thanks to that call and Bob Dee’s understanding of the terrain, a new British passport was issued the same day.
Happy Birthday, Aare. A charismatic gentleman, who treats all with warmth and deserved respect.
@yemiedundf
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