By Tolulope A. Adegoke
“I really don’t know what my talent is, but I thought this would be a good chance for me to give what I think I owe you all, and that is an explanation. If I have one talent, it is this: I can tell you that during that time my faith became very real to me.” – Carol Shuller
Having examined the possibilities of grace and wisdom, let’s consider the triumph of a positive mindset, using the incredible story of the Schuller’s family.
For four years, Dr Robert Schuller and his family watched how their daughter, Carol, amazingly moved from a hospital bed to the ski slopes. When they arrived from Korea to Carol’s bedside in Sioux City, Iowa, after her motorcycle accident, Schuller had been shocked by what he saw. His daughter lay in her bed in intensive care. Her body was bruised, broken and disfigured. But her spirit was whole and hearty. Incidentally, while on the way to see her, Schuller had relentlessly pondered his opening line. What would be my first words to her? But on getting to her, she solved the problem by speaking first: “I know why it happened, Dad. God wants to use me to help others who have been hurt.”
It was this positive attitude that saw Carol through seven months of hospitalisation, intravenous feedings, and consequent collapsed veins. This positive attitude gave her the courage to fight a raging infection that threatened her limb and her life. She hung on until a new drug was released by the United States’ FDA (Federal Drug Agency). It was the right drug at the right time – a real miracle.
Moreover, it was the same positive mentality that helped Carol to make the transition from a hospital patient to a “handicapped” member of a family and school. It helped her feel normal and whole again. She refused to allow the inconvenience of an artificial limb to keep her from pursuing the active life she loved, including soft ball.
The summer after her accident, Carol shocked her father by saying: “Dad, I am going to sign up for softball again this year. “That’s great!” Her dad responded, not wanting to discourage her. At that time, Carol’s artificial leg had been attached just below the knee. She was plagued by a stiff knee that could barely bend a thirty-degree angle. She walked very stiffly. Running was out of the question.
However, Dr Schuller took Carol to the local school where all the parents were lining up with their girls to sign up for the girls’ softball team. Carol signed up and went back to check her uniform. As she swung her stiff plastic leg into the car and rested her jersey, socks and cap in her lap, her father turned to her and said, “Carol, how do you expect to play ball if you can’t run?” Instantly, she replied, “I have got that all figured out, Dad! When you hit home runs, you do not have to run.”
Carol eventually hit enough home runs that season to justify her presence on the team! She learnt the lesson: Tough times never last, but tough people do. She has had six more surgeries since that first amputation. She soon became a regular skier and ultimately met her goal, which was to win a gold medal in the qualifying races that, in turn, admitted her to the elite corps of skiers participating in the National Ski Championships! Some years back, she pulled her goggles on and took her place among champions in the country- at the young age of eighteen years! Yes, she still walked with a limp. She drew curious looks from strangers. But her positive attitude helped her even with that.
Now, this is the most incredible part. Few years ago, the Schullers were privileged to be guests of the American-Hawaiian Steamship Company on a one-week cruise; it is a custom on the last night to have a talent show in which any of the passengers can participate. Carol, then seventeen years old, surprised her family one day by saying, “I am going to be in the talent show tonight.”
Carol was not into singing or dancing. So, naturally, her father was curious as to what she would do that night. Carol is not in the least ashamed to be seen in shorts or swimming attire, although her present artificial left leg covers her stump to just below the hip. But she is very conscious of the fact that people look at her out of the corners of their eyes and wonder what happened to her.
On the night of the talent show, Schuller and his wife sat in the lounge along with six hundred other people. The talent show was scheduled to take place on the stage in the big, glorified cocktail lounge. As you can imagine, it is a very secular scene. The acts that performed that night were typical of amateur talent shows. Then it was Carol’s turn. She came on stage, wearing neither shorts nor Hawaiian garb, but a full-length dress. She looked beautiful. She walked up to the microphone and said:
“I really don’t know what my talent is, but I thought this would be a good chance for me to give what I think I owe you all, and that is an explanation. I know you have been looking at me all week, wondering about my fake leg. I thought I should tell you what happened. I was in a motorcycle accident. I almost died, but they kept giving me blood, and my pulse came back. They amputated my leg below the knee and later they amputated through the knee. I spent seven months in the hospital – seven months with intravenous antibiotics to fight infection.” She paused a moment, and then continued, “If I have one talent, it is this: I can tell you that during that time my faith became very real to me.”
Suddenly, a hush swept over the lounge. The waitresses stopped serving drinks. The glasses stopped tinkling. Every eye was focused on this tall seventeen- year-old blonde. She said, “I look at you girls who walk without a limp, and I wish I could walk that way. I cannot, but this is what I have learnt, and I want to leave it with you: It is not how you walk that counts, but what walks with you and who you walk with.” And she sang a powerful song,
And He walks with me,
And He talks with me
And He tells me I am His own,
And the joy we share
In our time of prayer
(originally, “as we tarry there”)
None other can ever know
“Thank you,” she ended.
According to Schuller, “There was not a dry eye, not a life that was not touched that night as Carol gave those powerful words. Tough times never last, but tough people always do! Because tough people know that with men it is impossible, but with God all things are possible! What makes a person survive and thrive? Why are some people tough enough to win over their tough times? These are questions that have before been important as they are today, because we are going through the toughest time that our country has ever faced. We cannot merely talk about strategies for success. We have to get down to hard core principles that will work. And the only principle that we can believe in are the principles that are tested, tried and proven (trusted).”
Possibility-mindset works! It has helped countless people survive very tough times. It can help you too. It helped Robert Schuller; it helped Carol Schuller; it helped David in the Bible; it helped Daniel; it helped Joshua, it helped Joseph; it helped Apostle Paul…and I repeat, it can help you too!
Possibility thinkers are go-getters. Everybody has challenges. But you can learn to solve and manage your challenges, turning them to stepping stones to your rightful destiny. No matter how bad your situation may seem, know that it could always be worse. So, be glad it is not worse. In fact, it is actually surmountable! Put your challenges in the proper perspective. Stop making mountains out of a molehill. You are a natural champion – live it out!
Thank you all for reading.
Dr. Tolulope A. Adegoke is an accredited ISO 20700 Effective Leadership Management Trainer.
E-mail: adegoketolulope1022@gmail.com;
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