Having sex means different things to different people in different parts of the world. But no matter how you feel about it, it’s a special thing and it deserves to be done in a special way with your special one. However, as a result of the fact that you are an amateur to the whole idea, your first time might be a little awkward but have no fear! TBN is here to offer you some simple and useful tips to the make your first time your best time!
CONSENT: To add to the fun of it all, you have to give your consent and seek that of your partner. This is because you don’t want to force something as big of a deal as sex is on your loved one. Sit down together and talk about it so you can know where the both of you stand on the issue.
KNOW YOUR STATUS: Yep, you read that right! Because sex involves great deal of body fluids exchanging bodies (we know that sounds funny), you might want to check out the health status of your desired sex partner before engaging in the act. Check with your doctor and run a few tests together to be sure of what you’re getting yourself into. Knowing that you are both safe actually keeps you relaxed. We wouldn’t want for you to enjoy it today and have some infections tomorrow, would we?
LET YOUR HEART BEAT FAST: if you know you’re ready to have sex with your partner then its only normal for you to be a bunch of nerves before that time. Don’t beat yourself up for being nervous and shaky. Let your heart beat as fast as it can. Drink lots of water and enjoy the feel of your loved ones body against yours. Notice his/her likes or dislikes and go with the flow. There’s really no one way to do it. You determine the pace at which you go.
IGNORE WHAT YOU’VE HEARD BEFORE: Before your actual first experience, you must have read a ton of articles from magazines, blogs and newspapers about it. You must have even heard your friends talk about it but when it comes to your own experience, you have to ignore all that. The media has presented a well choreographed version of how sex should be and that’s the exact opposite of how it is. Sex is as flawed as they come. It is super awkward and requires tons of work and practice to fit into the style you see online. Allow yourself learn and make the most of this first time experience. How long it should last, what styles you should do, whether to spit or swallow-You should ignore all that information and call your shots in your sexual life.
DON’T FORGET FOREPLAY: This is the prelude to the main movie! It is very important and shouldn’t be overlooked. Foreplay involves kissing, fingering, cuddling and whatever you might like to throw into the mix. It gets you both prepared for the real thing. Take as long as you can and discover new things along the way. Most people are also known to value foreplay more than sex itself so don’t be ashamed to try it.
HAVE CARE IN MIND: at the end of everything, you want to make sure you and your partner are having the best time for the first time. Make sure you keep his/her concerns in mind during the action. Ask him/her where it hurts or what they’ll want more of. Don’t try to act like the porn stars you see online and treat your partner like an object. Have love and care in mind always
Also, don’t forget to give each other feedback after everything is done. Feedback doesn’t involve criticism or harsh words. Don’t expect your partner to perform like a porn star but don’t be shy to ask some questions and give some suggestions.
At the end of the day, it’s your world and your experience but we hope these few tips of ours will keep you on the right track when you decide to take the huge step.